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Hello, hello!
This week, our question is:
🌈PEER ADVICE: What advice would you give a lesbian who is starting online dating for the first time? See FB Post here.
Online dating, when done right, can be really wonderful! Lots of amazing long-term committed relationships have started through online dating. After you release expectations and take online dating for what it is (a good starting place to form friendships and romantic connections), dating apps can help you meet life-long romantic partners and help you build your own community of lesbian friendships.
That being said, there are some things to be wary of. Let’s check out what advice other lesbians have.
One reader says this : Be careful, a lot of pervert men pose as lesbians online. Be careful who you meet up with.
Yes, agreed. Safety is paramount. Creepy men aside, there are a lot of predators lurking around the internet. While that’s not a reason to be afraid or totally avoid internet dating, you should be careful and always take precautions to protect yourself. So, let’s go over some safety tips.
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1) Always, always meet in a public setting the first few times you meet up with someone new.
2) Never give out personal information (bank account numbers, credit card information) to anyone you don’t fully trust.
3) Be wary of people who repeatedly make up excuses not to see you. If someone is trying to move the relationship too fast without following through on commitments to Facetime or go on in-person dates, that’s a sign you may be being catfished.
4) Always share information with your friends and family: they offer great perspectives and can more easily see any problems in the relationship that you may not see since you may have on love blinders.
5) Listen to your instincts!! If something feels off, it probably is. Even if you’re in the middle of a date and something feels weird, call a friend or family member and leave. Never worry about being rude if you feel like you could be in a precarious situation.
Now that we’ve got the safety stuff out of the way, let’s hear what another reader has to say.
Another reader says this : If she says she isn’t into drama, it means she IS the drama.
L-O-L this is so true. If someone is weirdly into drama and declaring that they’re drama-free, they’re into drama.
My advice? Don’t take online dating too seriously. Have fun, relax, and look at it as a way to build community versus getting your hopes up about finding “the one.” Chances are, the more open you are, the more you’ll meet some great people, romantic or not. As you spend more time on dating apps, you’ll find people you click with.
So, have fun, be safe, and make sure to write to us in case you have any wild online dating stories you want to share with the community.
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