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When you first start dating someone new, it’s easy to get swept up in a whirlwind of powerful emotions. Falling in love is intoxicating, and many couples want to spend all of their time together – sometimes to the point where they rush to move in together.
But not rushing this major milestone is crucial to the longevity of your relationship. So, say goodbye to U-Haul Syndrome; here are some tips every lesbian can use to know when to move in together.
1. You’ve Had Fights (And Gotten Through Them)
A great way to know if you’re out of the honeymoon phase is when you and your partner deal with conflict in a healthy way that makes you stronger as a couple.
If you and your girlfriend haven’t had to work through major conflicts (or any conflicts at all), that’s a pretty good indicator you’re still in that blissful honeymoon phase.
Unfortunately, your relationship won’t always be like that. Every couple has their issues, and knowing how to work through them is key; so it’s best to know how to work through that before you sign a lease.
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2. You’ve Talked Finances
No matter which way you slice it: talking about money is awkward. But as uncomfortable as it may be, you and your partner need to be on the same page in terms of budget, splitting rent, paying bills, before you pack your moving boxes.
It’s also important to discuss who can feasibly take on the rent solo in case the relationship doesn’t work out. Sadly, some couples don’t last, and you want to make sure you both have an exit plan in case you need to split.
While it may be uncomfortable to talk about, it’s important you have a strong understanding of financial responsibilities so no conflict arises once you get settled into your new place.
3. You’re Not Rushing
We’ve all been there: your lease is about to run out soon, and if you don’t hurry and find a place with your partner you’ll have to spend another year living in separate places. But rushing just to make your timeline more convenient is a big pitfall, especially if you feel you need an extra few months to feel comfortable.
When in doubt, it’s always better to put on the brakes. Presumably, if you’re talking about moving in with your partner, then you are both in it for the long haul, and waiting an extra year shouldn’t break your relationship.
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